miercuri, 21 noiembrie 2007

to Live a Life Of Love That Pleases You

"In reality there is perhaps no one of our natural Passions so hard to subdue as pride. Disguise it, struggle with it, beat it down, stifle it, mortify it as much as one pleases, it is still alive, and will every now and then peep out and show itself...For even if I could conceive that I had completely overcome it, I should probably be proud of my humility." - Benjamin Franklin

"It's hard to be humble," says an old country song "when you're perfect in every way." Very few people, of course, actually think they're perfect in every way, but it can still be pretty hard to be humble, especially when you live in a society that encourages comptetition and . Even in such a culture, however, humility is an important virtue. Learning to be humble is of paramount importance in most religions and spiritual traditions, and humility can also help you develop as a person and enjoy richer relationships with others.


(humanistic perspective)
  1. Appreciate your talents. Being humble doesn't mean you can't be confident or feel good about yourself.Self-esteem is not the same as pride. Both come from a recognition of your own talents and qualities, but pride--the kind of pride that leans toward arrogance--is rooted in insecurity about them. Think about the abilities you have and be thankful for them.
  2. Understand your limitations. No matter how talented you are, there is almost always somebody who can do something better than you can. Even if you are the best in the world at doing one thing, there are other things--important, worthwhile things--that you cannot do, and you may never be able to do some of these things. Add to this the fact that there are a great many things that no person can do, and you can get some idea of your limitations. Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it doesn't mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. It does mean coming to terms with the very real limits of your abilities.
  3. Recognize your own faults. We judge others because it's a lot easier than looking at our own faults. Unfortunately, it's also completely unproductive and, in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationships , and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves. We make judgments about others all the time, and we often don't even realize it. As a practical exercise, try to catch yourself in the act of judging another person or group of people, and whenever you do, judge yourself instead and consider how you could improve yourself.
  4. Stop comparing. Anytime a magazine or TV show puts out a "top 10" type of list it's sure to generate a lot of controversy. Why? Because there is no universally accepted, objective set of criteria for the ranking. Yet people make these same kinds of judgments about everything from spoons to other people all the time. When we adopt this primitive rating system, we can't help but start ranking ourselves and comparing ourselves to others. It's just about impossible to be humble when we're striving to be the "best" or trying to be "better" than others. Instead, try describing things more objectively. Rather than saying that so and so is the best guitarist ever, say what exactly it is that you appreciate about his skills, or simply say that you like his playing style. Let go of meaningless, simplistic comparisons, and you'll be able to enjoy doing things without worrying about whether you're better or worse at them than others.
  5. Appreciate the talents and qualities of others. Challenge yourself to look at others and appreciate the things they can do and, more generally, to appreciate people for who they are. Understand that everybody is different and relish the chance you have to experience different people. You will still have your personal tastes, your likes and dislikes, but train yourself to separate your opinions from your fears and you will appreciate others more--you will be humbler.
  6. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Never be afraid to admit that you made a mistake. Part of being humble is understanding that you will make mistakes. Understand this, and understand that everyone else makes mistakes, and you will have a heavy burden lifted off of you. Why do we make mistakes? Because we don't know everything. Any one person can know only the smallest bits and pieces of the tremendous knowledge that has accumulated over the past. What's more, we experience only a sliver of the present, and we know nothing of the future.
  7. Don't be afraid to defer to others' judgment. It's easy to acknowledge that you make mistakes and that you're not always right. Somewhat more difficult however, is the ability to acknowledge that in many cases other people--even people who disagree with you--may be right. Deferring to your spouse's wishes, to a law you don't agree with, or even, sometimes, to your child's opinion takes your recognition of your limitations to a different level. Instead of simply saying that you know that you're fallible, you take action based on that fact. Of course, if you know that a particular course of action is wrong, you shouldn't follow it. On closer inspection, though, you may realize that you don't actually know this as often as you think you do.
  8. Rejuvenate your sense of wonder. Because we, as individuals, know practically nothing, you'd expect that we'd be awestruck more often than we typically are. Children have this sense of wonder, and it inspires the curiosity that makes them such keen observers and capable learners. Do you really know how your microwave works? Could you build one on your own? What about your car? Your brain? A rose? The jaded, "I've seen it all" attitude makes us feel far more important than we are. Be amazed like a child and you will not only be humbled; you will also be readier to learn.
  9. Seek guidance. Contemplate moral texts and proverbs about humility. PRAY for it, meditate on it, do whatever it takes to get your attention off yourself. If you're not into spirituality, consider the scientific method .Science requires humility. It requires that you let go of your preconceived notions and judgments and understand that you don't know as much as you think you do.
  10. Think about yourself under different circumstances. Much of what we give ourselves credit for should actually be credited to luck. Suppose you graduate from an Ivy League university at the top of your class. You definitely deserve a lot of credit for the many hours of studying and for your perseverance. Consider though, that there may be somebody just as intelligent and hardworking as you who simply had different parents, grew up in a different place, or simply had the bad luck to make one wrong choice in life. That person - you, really - might be in jail now, or they might have been killed in a war or starved to death. Always remember that with a little bad luck yesterday, your whole life could be different today and, furthermore, that today could be the day your luck changes.
  11. Help others. A big part of being humble is respecting others, and part of respecting others is helping them. Treat other people as equals and help them because it is the right thing to do. It's been said that when you can help others who cannot possibly help you in return, you have learned humility.


  • Keep in mind that being humble has many benefits. Humility can help you be more content with your life, and it can also help you endure bad times and improve your relationships with others. It's also essential to being an effective learner. If you think you know it all, you won't be open-minded enough to seek out new knowledge. Humility is also, somewhat counter-intuitively, an excellent tool for self-development in general. After all, if you feel superior, you have no incentive to improve. Most of all, being humble allows you to be honest with yourself.


  • Pretending to be humble isn't the same as being humble, and often people who pretend to be humble do it in order to seek out praise. Other people will recognize this, and even if you fool some, you won't derive the same benefits as you would through actually developing humility.

caracter nobil

Chiar din copilarie inima lui David a fost predata lui Dumnezeu în întregime. El era frumos nu numai la chip(I Sam.16:18) ci si în caracter ( I Sam.16:7). Desi a fost ales rege, el a avut totdeuna o atitudine smerita.

Dupa ce a fost uns ca rege, în loc sa mearga la palatul regal care i se cuvenea, el s-a reîntors la oile sale ( I Sam 17:15). Dupa aceea, s-a multumit sa-si înceapa domnia, venind în platul regal nu ca sa domneasca,ci ca sa cânte la harpa. (I Sam.16:21-23) Iar de fiecare data când i se propunea vre-un favor, se socotea a fi nevrednic.( I Sam.18:18-23)

Datorita acestui fapt a ramas memorabila marturisirea pe care a facut-o atunci câd i s-apropus sa fie ginerele împaratului : „ Credeti ca este usor sa fii ginerele împaratului? Eu sunt un om sarac si de putina însemnatate.” (I Sam 18:23)

Smerenia sa se vede nu numai prin atitudinea pe acare a avut-o fata de oameni , ci si prin respectul pe care l-a avut fata de Dumnezeu ( II Sam.7:18-24)

Caracterul lui David straluceste însa si prin faptul ca era pregatit sa slujeasca. Desi era cel mai mic din familia lui Isai, nu s-a împotrivit ca sa pasca oile.Când si-a început domnia a fost gata sa-l slujeasca pe Saul, fara sa-i fie frica de duhul rau care îl chinuia pe împarat. Iar când tatal sau l-a trimis la fratii sai pe câmpul de lupta, a fost gata sa mearga si sa-i aduca vesti, dar sa si lupte împotriva celui ce-a batjocorit ostirea Domnului (I Sam 17:1-58) De altfel, tot ceea ce-a primit mai târziu, a fost de fapt un drept câstigat prin lupta si slujire(I Sam.17:25; 18:25-30)etc.

Faptul cel mai important însa care dovedeste nobletea caracterului lui David este evidentiat prin actul pocaintei sale. Desi era rege, atunci când i s-a descoperit pacatul, David l-a recunoscut, l-a marturisit si s-a pocait sincer plângând cu amar.( II Sam.12:1-14, Ps.51:1-19)

to be humble:

(Christian perspective)

1 Petru 5:5-7
„Dumnezeu stă împotriva celor mândri, dar celor umili le dă har. Umiliţi-vă deci sub mâna tare a lui Dumnezeu, ca El să vă înalţe la vremea potrivită, aruncând asupra Lui toată îngrijorarea voastră, pentru că El Însuşi se îngrijeşte de voi.”

to be humble : In Christian terms, to be humble is to have an honest perspective on yourself. It comes from the same root as 'humility', but also the same root as 'humiliation'. Being humble is not about being humiliated. It's about understanding that you are not more important or more valuable or more loved by God than anyone else, that God has given each of them something special. Christian pride is about understanding that you are not less important or valuable or totally loved by God than anyone else, that the Spirit has given you something special, too. Humble people have the right frame of mind for putting to use the gifts God has given them. If you think yourself 'better than', you aren't likely to use the gifts to serve others; if you think yourself 'better than', you harbor the desire or hope that you can get others to serve you. If you follow Jesus, you follow a God who dined with tax collectors and traitors, washed his followers' feet, and died like a criminal with criminals. There is no 'better than' in this. This is the heart of being humble : serving a God who is greater than us.

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